PRE-MARITAL RELATIONS
May Allah bless Shaykh who has with his advices saved many young men and women from committing fornication before marriage, by pointing out the whole truth in such a manner that the youth of today find it palatable and adhere to his advices. Once Shaykh very candidly called out to the youth of the community:
“When young men and women date with each other (before marriage), they think that by doing this I am going to get to know the person well and then I can then decide whether we will be compatible or not. Remember that this is a deceit. When a young man and young woman go out together, they usually only show a front and their best side, and most faults are concealed. Therefore, after a ‘love marriage’ people face problems immediately [because ‘they don’t seem to know that person anymore’].
One can also make an assumption that perhaps these types of marriages face furthermore problems than other marriages [without pre-marital relations] because one has already fixed an expectation that this person was such before and should be so now. Whereas a couple who have not had pre-martial relations will be open-minded and become willing to face any problem that comes their way”.
Another time Shaykh said “A young man came to me and said ‘Shaykh I don’t find my wife attractive any more, and neither does she find me attractive. I don’t understand’, he said ‘before marriage we were extremely attracted to each other’. I replied [said Shaykh] to this young chap. ‘It’s quite simple. The love that you had was actually an infatuation, and Shaytaan deliberately put that attraction in the both of you so that you went on committing sin before marriage. It was favorable for him to do so because you were both in grave loss. However, after you got married, your interaction became Halal and lawful, so in fact, instead of sin you were now gaining reward, so Shaytaan removed that attraction, because you were evidently in gain!”
(Source: Haqislam)
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