6.6. HER MARRIAGE TO THE PROPHET (PEACE BE UPON HIM)
It was reported that before the death of Abu Salamah, Umm Salamah said to him, “It has come to my knowledge that a wife who does not marry after her husband, who will be granted Paradise, Allah will gather them in Paradise. So, let us make a promise that you should not marry after me nor should I after you.” He said, “Will you obey me?” “Yes” she replied. Then he said, “If I die first, you should take a husband. O Lord, grant Umm Salamah after me a husband who will be better than me and will not cause her harm.” When he died, Umm Salamah wondered, who could be better than Abu Salamah could? It did not take long before the Prophet (peace be upon him) asked her permission to enter. He, then, proposed marriage to her.
In another narration she was reported to have said, “When Abu Salamah died, I went to the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) and said, ‘Messenger of Allah, Abu Salamah has died.’ He told me to say, ‘O Allah! Forgive him and me (Umm Salamah) and give me a better substitute than him.’ So I said (this), and Allah gave me in exchange Muhammad, who is better for me than him (Abu Salamah).”
After her waiting period (out of mourning for her deceased husband) had ended, Abu Bakr and then Wmar (may Allah be pleased with them) proposed marriage to her but she gently refused them. Afterwards, the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) sent someone to deliver her the message of marriage. In fact, Umm Salamah wished for this great honor, but because of her age and children she feared that she might be unable to carry out her duties compared to A’ishah and Hafsah. Thereby, she sent the Prophet (peace be upon him) her excuse saying, “I have children, and I am very jealous and no one of my guardians is present.” In another narration she was reported to have added, “And I am also an old woman.” Thereupon, the Prophet (peace be upon him) sent her, “As for your statement; ‘I have children, f Allah will suffice them. Then, as for your saying, ‘I am very jealous’; I will make Dua’ that Allah may help you get rid of your jealousy. Regarding your guardians, no one of them either present or absent will reject me; but concerning your old age I am older than you.
Then, Umm Salamah said to her son, “Stand up, and marry me to the Prophet (peace be upon him).” The marriage contract was concluded in Shawwal, 4 AH, on a dowry estimated of four hundred dirhams.
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said to her, “I will not reduce anything of what I had given to your sister so and so. I will give you two jars, two hand mills, and a leather cushion stuffed with palm fiber.” Then, the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) consummated the marriage with her.
From the first day Umm Salamah entered the house of the Prophet (peace be upon him) (as his wife) she was pleasantly keen to comfort her husband and to provide him with every possible means of comfort and tranquility- At the beginning of the first night of her marriage she was a bride but at the end of this first night she got up to grind the flour. She (may Allah be pleased with her) voluntarily decided to send her little daughter to a baby sitter to perform her duties towards her husband very well. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said to her, If you desire, I can spend a week with you, and if you like I may spend three (nights). And then I will visit you in turn. ” She said, “Spend thr 
(SOURCE: Wives of Prophet Muhammad, Their Strives and Their Lives by Muhammad Fathi Mus’ ad)
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