4.3. THE WISDOM BEHIND THE PROPHET’S MARRIAGE TO HAFSAH
Thus, Hafsah (may Allah be pleased with her) joined the Prophet’s pure wives, Mothers of the Believers, following to Sawdah and Indeed, this was a great blessing and honorable favor from Allah on Umar and his daughter, Hafsah.
By this marriage the Prophet (peace be upon him) wanted to reinforce his relation with (may Allah be pleased with him) not only through friendship, which already existed, but also through that private familial relation that would enable x Umar to enter the Prophet’s house and then he would be always close to the Prophet (peace be upon him).
The Prophet (peace be upon him) did the same with his cousin Ali who married Fatimah, and with his friend who married Umm Kulthum after her sister, Ruqayyah, passed away. Along with Abu Bakr these three people were the greatest Companions and successors of the Prophet (peace be upon him) in communicating his mission (of Islam) and establishing his Da ‘wah.
As Umar concerned himself with the Prophet’s affairs and spared no effort to please him, he used to keep on watching and directing his daughter in order to be an excellent wife to the best husband. He, once, said to her, “How far you are when compared to N A’ishah, and how far I am when compared to her father!” Once, (may Allah be pleased with him) was informed by his wife that his daughter used to answer back the Prophet (peace be upon him) and thus he became enraged with her all the day. Whereupon, he hastened to her until he entered her apartment and asked her if what he had been informed was right. She said, “Yes.” Upon this answer he said, “What a ruined person you are! Do you not fear going to rack and ruin if Allah gets angry with you for the sake of His Messenger’s anger? Do not ask the Prophet for surplus requirements, do not answer him back, and do not desert him. Ask me whatever you need and do not be tempted to imitate your neighbor (i.e., A’ishah) in her manners for she is more charming than you and more beloved to the Prophet.
We learn from this hadith the merit of bringing up a daughter by means of good admonition in order to reform her relation with her husband. Also, we learn that we should talk politely using good words as well as \ Umar did when he said “…Do not be tempted to imitate your neighbor…” rather than “your fellow wife”. Al-Qurtubi was reported to have said, ‘B Umar preferred calling her a neighbor as a kind of politeness on his part lest he should offend any of the Mothers of the Believers.
(SOURCE: Wives of Prophet Muhammad, Their Strives and Their Lives by Muhammad Fathi Mus’ ad)
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