PART 5: 150 WAYS TO BE DUTIFUL TO YOUR MOTHER
120. In the presence of her you should be well-behaved without raising our voice, creating controversies, quarrel or mentioning anything that she is reluctant to answer.
121. When coming from a trip, present her with a gift from the country where you came from, which will remain in her memory about your trip and an expression of your happiness upon seeing her .
122. The place where your mother was brought up as well as the place of the early days of her marriage have a special place in her heart, why don’t you take her to enjoy remembering those unforgettable places.
123. Teaching children about the virtue of dutifulness, inspiring them to compete over being the best in this respect can be a source of happiness for them. In addition, they will do good deeds for you in the future .
124. If your parents got divorced, do not criticize any one of them with anything they hate .
125. In case of any disputes within the family, offer functional solutions in a diplomatic manner to save the ship from sinking; in order to abate any concerns and to gladden the mother .
126. If your mother gets married to another husband other than your father , respect and be generous to him ; present her gifts on different occasions as it sets her heart at peace .
127. If your mother is a wife to somebody else, respect him, consult him in some of your issues and take his advice.
128. Call those who are close to your mother’s heart from your own phone, and make it easy for her to contact and visit them.
129. When she gets old, keep being with her, be affectionate towards her, hold her hand, and orientate her, give her a hand, provide her with what she needs and never leave her without .
130. If her opinion was contrary to yours, don’t be stubborn, but be easy going and pay her compliments, even if she was wrong unless it is disobedience to the Creator.
131. If she is one of those follower of magazines, papers or any stuff relevant to the library, then help her to participate in that activity as a gift .
132. Always give her money and don’t wait for her to ask you, as some mothers do not want to embarrass their children by doing so.
133. If you bought her needs or fulfill her requirements, don’t take back the value of that by asking for money; make it as a gift for her .
134. Open a bank account for her where you should put some money every so often; teach her how to use the ATM machine which means that you are making her feel secure .
135. If you commit a mistake against her, rush to apologize; and send the best friend of her as a mediator to accept your apology; in addition, send her a gift for forgiveness.136. When she gets old, don’t call her by the names that make her feels aged. Calling her grandmother or any hints at age may annoy her.
137. If you observe any misbehavior in her marital life, don’t advise her directly; but, try to clarify the point without hurting her feelings and remind her about her husband’s rights.
138. try always to update yourself with a new act of righteousness to her; think about the condition of dutiful people surrounding you and try to utilize their ideas; add some features on that and do it for your mother.
139. Do not limit your self at a certain level of the righteousness, but put into consideration that any deeds you provide her is less than entitlements; in addition, always find ways to make your dutifulness more perfect, and your deeds much better.
140. Whatever her actions, ideas or opinions, don’t obviously belittle them; but try to be lenient and complimenting of the action .
141. Do not interrupt her or disregard her by not paying attention during her conversation. Do not converse or listen to others when she is talking to you but give her your full attention.
142. Try to increase your Knowledge with regards to the virtue of dutifulness and the biographies of righteous people, as it develops your inspiration .
143. If you see a person afflicted with impiety, then say “All praise and thanks are due to ALLAH who restored me to health from that which He afflicted many people with and this is rather a protection for you from the evil of mocking.
144. During her visit with you , do not turn your back to her or away from your attention; maintain that you should be the nearest person to her and the fastest one of serving her.
145. When she wants to walk, bring her shoes or slippers and put them on her feet; walk with her side by side holding her hand; always follow her with your sight and heart .
146. Do not be the last one to know her news, the last one congratulating her or console her during her trials., take the initiative in this respect as it reflects on how conscientious you are.
147. In the event she is mad at you, do not respond to her or justify your stance in the situation at once. If you are wrong, extend your apology and ask her for forgiveness .
148. Some Mothers are quick tempered; so, be patient, tolerant and try to accommodate her attitude; ask God to preserve her and you will be rewarded for your patience .
149. Write on a piece of paper her favorite things; write each in a way by which you reach her heart and become dutiful .
150. Contemplate and think of those who have lost their mother, and how they missed the opportunity to gain rewards through being dutiful; so, why don’t we make use of this means as the door is still opened.
151. When she is sick, cancel your trips and appointments and focus on her so she gets better upon the presence of her children.
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